Pride the Root Cause
July 11, 2009
Today, emotional stress and depression all around us is viewed as common in our daily lives. It may start from as little as dealing with traffic to work stress and relationship strife. However, we often ignore that the root cause of it all is pride.
It is pride that enrages one individual against another on the road; he may think, “does he think he is better than me, I will show him by honking at him” instead of humbling himself. To illustrate, “A fool shows his annoyance at once, but a prudent man overlooks an insult.”
Also, when dealing with difficulties at work and tough circumstances, it is easy to fall into the pit of pride. For example, maintaining an attitude of humility with your co-workers is much more important than being right all the time. No one wants destruction in their life, the opposite of pride is humility, because “Pride goes before destruction, and a haughty spirit before a fall.”
Additionally, relationship strife can start from small misunderstandings resulting in disconnect from each other, which leads to depression. Instead of putting the pride aside and reuniting the couple grows further apart. In spite of this, you must not forget as C.S. Lewis once said, “A man is never so proud as when striking an attitude of Humility.”
Moreover, it is truly amazing how much every couple remembers about love before marriage and forgets soon after. A love quote is something every couple should have in their memory. So, the next time any of those negative thoughts about your loved one surface, you will immediately be reminded.
Reading: “Love is patient, love is kind.
It does not envy.
Love is never boastful, nor conceited, nor rude;
It is not self-seeking, nor easily angered.
It keeps no record of wrongdoing.
It does not delight in evil,
But rejoices in the truth.
It always protects, trusts, hopes, and preserves.
There is nothing love cannot face;
There is no limit to its faith, hope, and endurance.
In a word, there are three things that last forever:
Faith, hope, and love;
But the greatest of them all is love.”
Overall, life without pride is much more peaceful and giving. You are not constantly thinking about your next move based on pride, instead your mind is settled on humility and love.
Fighting with your Spouse
Fighting and arguing between spouses is common with any couple who are in a close relationship. At the same time, the hurtful things said to each other during arguments can destroy relationships. It is so easy to get into an argument and at the end, it all seems so silly. Sometimes, couples end up fighting over things that don’t even matter and lose out on good times altogether.
Nevertheless, it is important that both sides make some ground rules to end or resolve those heated arguments when they arise. Here are some of things I believe all couples should keep in mind when in an argument.
First, be honest about the situation and take the time to listen to the other person rather than doing all the talking yourself. In other words, listening can be the key factor in resolving the issue.
Secondly, put yourself in the other person’s shoes instead of staying focused on your point of view. Refrain from making the situation more intense, take time out and be alone for some time.
Thirdly, when you are at fault, admit your mistake rather than pointing fingers at each other. For example, when Adam ate the apple he blamed Eve for giving it to him and Eve blamed the snake. In this case, no one wants to take responsibility for their actions. You must learn to take responsibility for your actions rather than blaming someone else for the choices you make. Simultaneously, admitting your mistake in an argument puts you ahead of the problem, helping you to mitigate it.
Finally, assume your spouse wants to be happy when the argument dies down. Try to get close to each other by hugging or by saying nice things to each other. Sometimes words can work as a healing balm. Even if it is as simple as “I Love you.”
God’s Love
Love is an expression of God that shows grace and mercy. God’s love transcended through his son, and the love we share is a reflection of our relationship to God and the ones we love.
We have all heard of Eros and Agape type of love. Each one is closely observed throughout our society. God shows grace and mercy, and therefore, we are to share the same to the ones we love. God is merciful because it is totally underserved and graceful because it is freely given. Love is the highest creative force in all relationships. Elizabeth Browning said, “Love, I say, is the energy of life!” Read more »
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