Fighting with your Spouse
Fighting and arguing between spouses is common with any couple who are in a close relationship. At the same time, the hurtful things said to each other during arguments can destroy relationships. It is so easy to get into an argument and at the end, it all seems so silly. Sometimes, couples end up fighting over things that don’t even matter and lose out on good times altogether.
Nevertheless, it is important that both sides make some ground rules to end or resolve those heated arguments when they arise. Here are some of things I believe all couples should keep in mind when in an argument.
First, be honest about the situation and take the time to listen to the other person rather than doing all the talking yourself. In other words, listening can be the key factor in resolving the issue.
Secondly, put yourself in the other person’s shoes instead of staying focused on your point of view. Refrain from making the situation more intense, take time out and be alone for some time.
Thirdly, when you are at fault, admit your mistake rather than pointing fingers at each other. For example, when Adam ate the apple he blamed Eve for giving it to him and Eve blamed the snake. In this case, no one wants to take responsibility for their actions. You must learn to take responsibility for your actions rather than blaming someone else for the choices you make. Simultaneously, admitting your mistake in an argument puts you ahead of the problem, helping you to mitigate it.
Finally, assume your spouse wants to be happy when the argument dies down. Try to get close to each other by hugging or by saying nice things to each other. Sometimes words can work as a healing balm. Even if it is as simple as “I Love you.”
Communication is Vital
Communication has been called the secret of achieving and maintaining unity in marriage. The purpose of communication in marriage is not to get the other partner to agree. However, it is to bring him/her into relationship where uniqueness of each stands in complementary relation to the other partner.
Marriage requires partners to come in agreement for decisions in life. Apart from talking through all the factors which each partner regards as relevant, no genuine agreement can be reached.
A common misevaluation considers marriage as having only two possible states- complacency or crisis. Complacency is a threat to communication beyond the merely superficial, while crisis often precipitates communication of the most real and effective sort. Read more »
Intimacy
Intimacy refers to the state of being that is most private and personal in a relationship. It depicts a special quality of emotional closeness between two people in which both are constantly alert and responsive to the fluctuation of feelings and to the well being of the other.
A sense of warmth, safety, relaxation, and sexual pleasures lovingly shared together. Signs of love freely given and received followed by mutual responsibility and care. Read more »
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