Pride the Root Cause

By Dolly | Jul 21, 2009

Psychology | 3 Comments

July 11, 2009

Today, emotional stress and depression all around us is viewed as common in our daily lives. It may start from as little as dealing with traffic to work stress and relationship strife. However, we often ignore that the root cause of it all is pride.

It is pride that enrages one individual against another on the road; he may think, “does he think he is better than me, I will show him by honking at him” instead of humbling himself. To illustrate, “A fool shows his annoyance at once, but a prudent man overlooks an insult.”

Also, when dealing with difficulties at work and tough circumstances, it is easy to fall into the pit of pride. For example, maintaining an attitude of humility with your co-workers is much more important than being right all the time. No one wants destruction in their life, the opposite of pride is humility, because “Pride goes before destruction, and a haughty spirit before a fall.”

Additionally, relationship strife can start from small misunderstandings resulting in disconnect from each other, which leads to depression. Instead of putting the pride aside and reuniting the couple grows further apart. In spite of this, you must not forget as C.S. Lewis once said, “A man is never so proud as when striking an attitude of Humility.”

Moreover, it is truly amazing how much every couple remembers about love before marriage and forgets soon after. A love quote is something every couple should have in their memory.  So, the next time any of those negative thoughts about your loved one surface, you will immediately be reminded.

Reading: “Love is patient, love is kind.
It does not envy.
Love is never boastful, nor conceited, nor rude;
It is not self-seeking, nor easily angered.
It keeps no record of wrongdoing.
It does not delight in evil,
But rejoices in the truth.
It always protects, trusts, hopes, and preserves.
There is nothing love cannot face;
There is no limit to its faith, hope, and endurance.
In a word, there are three things that last forever:
Faith, hope, and love;
But the greatest of them all is love.”

Overall, life without pride is much more peaceful and giving. You are not constantly thinking about your next move based on pride, instead your mind is settled on humility and love.

Women are Apples

By Dolly | Jun 29, 2009

Psychology, Thoughts | 5 Comments

Women are like apples on trees, the best ones are on the top of the tree. The men don’t want to reach for the good ones because they are afraid of falling and don’t want to get hurt. Instead, they just get the rotten apples from the ground that isn’t so good but easy. So, the apples at the top think something is wrong with them, when in reality they are amazing. They just have to wait for the right man to come along, the one who’s brave enough to climb all the way to the top because they value quality.

Take Life as it Comes

By Dolly | Jun 12, 2009

Psychology | 2 Comments

June 2, 2009

Taking life as it comes does not mean living without goals. What it really means is to take negative circumstances as well as we take positive ones in our lives by keeping a balanced state of mind. I often hear people say “I deserve it” about something they desired and on the contrary if there is a negative circumstance, the reaction is “Why me?” Life is full of surprises with good ones and bad ones, so we must be ready to live through the situations we have little control over by living one day at a time.

Before you start to worry about any situation or get upset, ask yourself this question: “Is my worrying going to resolve this issue?” If not, then worrying or getting upset will only add to this problem. Then, focus on problem-solving to see if there is an available solution to help the situation. If it is something you can do nothing about, it is pointless to fight it. For example, if there is traffic due to an accident, it will not do any good for you to resist it. In this case, this is one of those little surprises life throws at you.  You should relax and find another way to utilize your time in the car.

It also makes you wonder, What is the point of taking charge of my life if bad things are going to happen anyway? This is exactly where taking life as it comes, comes in handy, because you should strive to keep life as simple as possible.  Since there is no way to know what will come your way, you will find yourself learning through trial and error and getting through situations you have little control over. This simple balanced state of mind will make you feel in control of the situation and not interfere with your judgment to make better decisions.