Finally Married!

May 31, 2008

Marriage brings two people together in a binding commitment that is meant to last forever. Not only are the two joined as one but they are also accountable to each other. For some people these changes are exciting and they begin to see everything positively. However, some these changes have a negative effect and they feel trapped.

For my husband and I, it is a mix of both. I am still learning not to feel as if I am under his supervision, and at the same time I don’t treat him that way either. Mostly, it is human nature that drives us to be

a certain way as we respond differently. Moreover, it also depends on the situation and the timing.

For Instance, when I went shopping with a friend, I didn’t feel the need to call my husband to let him know. We decided to do some other girly things like getting our manicure and pedicure done. Obviously, these things take time and me being away from my phone didn’t help the situation much either.

As I entered the house, my husband made a suggestion to at least call and let him know if I was planning other things because he was a little worried. Of course, I got defensive very quickly. His care and affection was taken in negative manner and I told him he didn’t own me just because he was married to me. Do these kinds of remarks only push your loving partner away as if you don’t want them to look out for your well being?

In contrast, this same care can’t be over the top either. Another example is when my husband was working at his colleagues’ office. He was to be done by 5pm but because of traffic he was delayed with an extra hour. I had special plans but because of his little delay I became a little upset, but later I realized the lost time wouldn’t come back.

As long as we understand and grasp these little things about each other the changes would start working on our behalf. Keeping in mind it is a commitment made forever so let us make it last in bliss.

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